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Simple Feet (Part 1)

April 14, 2014Christianity, Grace, Love one another, mom, motherhood, Parenting, Spiritual Encouragement, UncategorizedAbba Father, encouragement for moms, encouragement for teachers, God's plans, homeschooling mom, Love one another, new mom, Parenting, servanthood, spiritual encouragement, TEACHER MOM, Unconditional love, unconditional love for children, washing disciples feetT.W. Allgaier

Simple Feet- Part 1

I have an aversion to feet. There I said it. Baby feet I can tolerate. Sorry. What kind of mom was I?????

But simple feet have a story to tell.

John 13:2-8 “The evening meal was being served, and the devil had already prompted Judias Iscariot, son of Simon, to betray Jesus. Jesus knew that the Father had put all things under his power and that he had come from God and was returning to God; so he got up from the meal, took off his out clothing, and wrapped a towel around his waist. After that, he poured water into a basin and began to wash the disciples’ feet, drying them with the towel that was wrapped around him. He came to Simon Peter, who said to him, ‘Lord are you going to wash my feet?’ and Jesus replied ‘You do not realize what I am doing, but later you will understand.’ ‘No’, said Peter, ‘you shall never wash my feet’ Jesus answered, ‘unless I was you, you will have no part of me.'”

Friends, these were not baby feet!! These were grimy, dirty, walk many miles in the mud and no telling what else, men feet. And our Jesus actually washed them!! The King of Kings and Lord of Lords washed his disciples’ feet!!

Imagine sitting around the table, laughing, eating and having a good time. The serious stuff had not happened yet. I believe with all my heart that Jesus knew how to have a good time. He was happy, charismatic and a man whose love drew people to him. At any rate, he knew his time had come and he knew the lesson he had to teach. And Jesus, the greatest teacher ever, taught them in a way they would understand and remember. Can you imagine the horror on the disciples’ faces? I bet the silence was deafening as they all sat there with shock on their face!

Then Peter (love this guy) said what most all of them wanted to say….and then Jesus responded. Jesus was showing them the love he had for them! He showed the true humility of God’s servant by washing their feet. He was setting the example…Luke 22:15-15 “I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you. I tell you the truth, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater that the one who sent him.”

I have a story to further illustrate this lesson next time. Simple feet…a lesson indeed!

Be blessed,

IN CHRIST ALONE

Isaiah 55:8-9

*google image, NIV*

Happy Birthday to My Eldest!

April 3, 2014Christianity, mom, motherhood, Parenting, UncategorizedAbba Father, encouragement for moms, God's plans, Parenting, TEACHER MOM, Unconditional love, unconditional love for childrenT.W. Allgaier

Happy Birthday to my Eldest!

I would be remiss not to mention the birthday of my eldest son. He was the little guy who first made me a Mommy. He was the first human being to really teach me what “unconditional love” meant. I thought I knew….then he was born. So when the second one arrived, I was prepared and understood how that love multiplied and didn’t divide.

Being a mom is not the easiest job in the world…in fact, I personally think it is one of the most difficult. We got through the necessary stages…newborn, baby, toddler, preschooler, young child, child, preteen, teen, post teen and now Adult. I am still working on being a mother of the Adult stage. And I have made plenty of mistakes…

I am proud of my children. But I often say that I cannot take the blame for their failures, anymore than I can take credit for their successes. They are adults. They are still a delight to me.So I give God the praise today for allowing me to learn so much from my first born. I thank Him for trusting us enough to raise him. And I say Happy Birthday…to my once little buddy.

“I prayed for this child, and the Lord has granted me what I asked of him. So now I give him to the Lord. For his whole life he will be given over to the Lord.” 1 Samuel 1:27-28

Be blessed~

IN CHRIST ALONE

Isaiah 55:8-9*

image A2Z animation, NIV Bible*

Behavior-Respect=Lack of Discipline

February 26, 2014homeschooling, Love one another, mom, motherhood, Parenting, Spiritual Encouragement, teachers, Uncategorizedbehavior in children, christian encouragement for moms, discipline, discipline children, encouragement for teachers, first year teachers, homeschooling mom, raising children, respect, student behavior, Teaching, teaching position, unconditional love for childrenT.W. Allgaier

An Observed Formula

As a former teacher and mom of adult children, I have made a number of observations. I cannot say that they are correct, nor can I claim any scientific evidence. But it is was I have observed…my formula so to speak.

Behavior-Respect=Lack of Discipline

Behavior is defined as “the manner of conducting oneself” (Merriam-Webster) Respect is defined “a feeling of admiring someone or something that is good, valuable, important, etc.” and “a feeling or understanding that someone or something is important, serious, etc., and should be treated in an appropriate way” (Merriam-Webster). Discipline is defined as “control that is gained by requiring that rules or orders be obeyed and punishing bad behavior” or “a way of behaving that shows a willingness to obey rules or orders”.(Merriam-Webster)

How interesting. Could it be that simple?

The manner of conducting oneself, without the feeling of value leads to lack of behaving in a way that shows a willingness to obey rules?

Yep. I think it is.

If we don’t teach our children how to have respect for themselves and others, they will have no reason to follow any rules. What does it really matter to them? I am mindful of Mark 12:30-31, when Jesus was responding to a question by one of the “teachers of the law” when he asked what the greatest commandments was, and Jesus replied: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’There is no commandment greater than these.”

Hopefully we teach our children to love their neighbors, but do we teach them to love their neighbor as they do themselves? Now I am not talking about the way some might do…the child can do no wrong, I am talking about respect and love. Teaching your child their value…..that God has a plan for them. How their lives are so important and they count for something. How Jesus loves them “without condition”.

I have seen both sides of that pendulum. Children who are given no respect at home, practically raising themselves, and don’t understand what it means to love others and put their needs first. They are kids for heaven’s sake, and yet the needs of those raising them comes first. I have seen it folks, firsthand and it is sad. How can a child dealing with those issues be full of respect for others and be disciplined at the same time?

Most of the issues I dealt with at school involved a lack of respect for themselves, friends and those in authority. I get it. But dealing with those behaviors while trying to educate is not always a happy mix. (But that is another blog!)

At any rate, I feel as though I am rambling, and I most likely am…but it breaks my heart. Our children, the children that are growing up around us…are they taught or given unconditional love? Can we as teachers, parents, friends…give it? Does it mean allowing a child to do what he wants when he wants it? Is our society disrespectful in general? What can we do?

I don’t have all the answers and will never pretend to have them. But the one thing I know for sure is that we must love. We must teach our children the true meaning of unconditional love. Then we must surrender to the Lord Jesus and allow Him to love others through us. How you teach that is up to you and the leading of the Holy Spirit.

I spent much of my day teaching and demanding respect. But my students knew that I loved them. They knew that they were important to me. They knew that the discipline (to train, to teach, to educate..Strongs) was because of the love I had for them, due to the unconditional love shown me through Christ. The children were not the reason I stopped teaching..although having my proverbial “hands tied” did contribute … (But that too is another blog)

So what is the answer? Jesus. Knowing who He really is…having an intimate relationship with Him and not making it about “rules and regulations” Without the love, rules and regulations will just lead to rebellion. (But that is another blog too!!)

I hope that I have given you some things to ponder. I would love to hear your thoughts on my observed formula! And it appears as though I have three more blogs to write….education and dealing with discipline issues….teachers leaving the field…rules and regulations without relationship…..hmmmmmm…..

Blessings dear ones~

IN CHRIST ALONE

Isaiah 55:8-9