I truly try to be a good friend.
Often times I open myself up to hurt. Some keep walls up, others (like me) don’t know when to erect even the smallest wall. You’d think at my age I would have learned better by now. Is it worth the risk?
I trust basically everyone who claims to be my friend. That has proven to be a bit of a mistake. I must chuckle when I look at my friend’s list on Facebook. There are certainly “degrees” to friendship.
Some that won’t speak to you in a grocery store, but will create a superficial intimacy on Facebook. Others that are basically just nosy. Then there are friends from your past that will truly always be friends. And the ones who have moved…yet remain true.
“Circumstantial” or “environmental” friendships occur naturally, but what happens when the circumstances or environments change?
Then there are the die hards. The ones you talk to in person, in texts and on Facebook. Those that will always be there…come “hell or high water” kind of friends. Those that love you no matter what you say, wear, look like or go through. Those are the friends that you can trust to be honest…but unfortunately I have learned that they are “far and few between”.
Just kidding. Or am I?
There are friends that no matter how much time has passed, you pick up as if you just talked each and every night over the last three months. How can that be?
We are all made up differently and have diverse personalities. And let’s face it, some people are givers…and others are takers.
I want to be a giver, but sometimes I need to take. A true friendship has a little of both. But I am a realist and I know that I will let people down. I don’t intentionally try to do so, but I know that I do.
So what does the word of God say about friendship? I read many verses, but this one really spoke to my heart.
Job 16:20-21—“My intercessor is my friend as my eyes pour out tears to God; on behalf of a man he pleads with God as a man pleads for his friend.”
And we know how Job’s “friends” spoke to him about what he was experiencing!
The truth is our best friend is Jesus. He laid down His life for us. He advocates for us…
Lord, may I be the kind of friend that you would have me to be as I surrender my life and allow you to live yours through me…because right now it feels like it would be easier to “hide out” to avoid being hurt….but I trust you.
Maybe I need to learn to erect a wall or two! Or is it worth the risk?
IN CHRIST ALONE
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