I don’t like some people. And when someone hurts my feelings… it is hard to get over.
There, I said it. There are some people that I know that are self centered, selfish, self absorbed….I am noticing a pattern here. Or it just may be someone who has a different personality than me..and I don’t like them.
So what is a parent to do when a child makes that kind of statement….”I don’t like her, she is not my friend.” “She hurts my feelings all the time!”
As I have stated before….I am NOT an expert on child rearing, I just go back to my experiences as a parent and teacher, and share from my heart.
I have noticed that girls are a little more sensitive about feelings that boys. My boys seemed to fuss and argue and get mad and get over it. Girls don’t do it quite as quickly…I learned that while teaching and let’s face it…I’m a girl too, maybe an old girl; but still a girl.
And this old gal who recently had her feelings hurt and cannot seem to get past it.
So what is a parent to do about those unlikable people of those who have hurt feelings?
First of all, acknowledge the feelings. Don’t act like the child’s feelings don’t matter. In their world, this situation might have made that world come crashing.
Secondly, talk about the situation and what happened. Why did this person act like that? Did you do anything that would have hurt their feelings? Is an apology in order?
Third, if this is a consistent pattern…find out why the child wants to remain friends. Is that something he/she can do over and over? Is it likely to happen again?
Lastly, let your child know it is okay to admit he/she doesn’t like someone. Once this is admitted…then you can go to the source of unconditional love. Encourage the child to see that person through the eyes of Jesus. Jesus can love that person through you; especially when you admit that you cannot.
Friends, there is freedom in that statement. Admit YOU don’t like them. Ask the Father to love them through you. I have been in situations that I KNOW the Father was loving on someone through me, because left to my own feelings…..I would have said some things I would have regretted.
If feelings are hurt, go to the Father for a healing of those feelings. It might require going directly to that person, or asking God to take away that pain.
Galatians 2:20 -“I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.”
There is no telling who is lined up for you to let Christ love on!
IN CHRIST ALONE
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