“Who dropped those crumbs all over the kitchen floor” I said to the boys. “Not me” said the eldest, “I didn’t do it either” said the youngest.
“Well one of you got crumbs all over my clean kitchen floor” I said in a voice that I was not proud of. “I have cleaned the bathroom and worked so hard on this floor. Our friends are coming over tonight and I don’t want to have to mop it again!”
“But Mom, he must have done it because I did not!” “Nuh-uh, I did not!” Then the arguing and accusations ran rampant.
I was beyond frustrated, I still had to finish the dinner and the boys were supposed to clean their bedrooms….but all I felt was the tension and pressure. We had finished school early that day, and we were still in this situation. So much for the “perfect homeschool day.”
I couldn’t handle it. I started yelling and crying. I ran to my bedroom and slammed the door. It was very mature of me I know.
Once I stopped my crazy sobbing I listened…and heard nothing.
Not always a good sign.
I quickly washed off my face and walked quietly to the kitchen. And I saw it…
My boys were mopping the kitchen floor. No arguments, no accusations….just team work. Then it hit me. I had dropped one of the morning biscuits off the tray this morning when I got my third cup of coffee (tension and pressure…can you say caffeine?)
I thought I had cleaned it up, but my phone rang and I forgot to go back to it. Instead, I blamed the boys.
“Boys…I have something to say to you…..I am sorry. I blamed you for something I did.” “Ah, Mom…it is no big deal, we forgive you already. You cried so you had to deal with that sad part. Now that we cleaned the kitchen that we didn’t mess up, can we skip cleaning our bedroom?”
Out of the mouth of babes.
Friends, don’t ever be afraid to admit to your children that you made a mistake. Don’t be too proud to say you are sorry. It is a lesson that will stay for them forever. Trust me, there were many times throughout their lives (remember they are 26 and 28) that I have had to say I am sorry…and I am sure there will be more.
Maybe it made it easier for them when they had made a mistake…and my reply…”you are already forgiven, you already have dealt with the sad part.”
“And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins. ” Mark 11:25
IN CHRIST ALONE
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