Have you ever been on “both sides of the coin?”
Most of us have been at one time or another. An employee/employer. Child/Parent. That is one of my favorites. You know, when you get around your parents and they make you feel like a twelve year old again? Or at my age when you get around your boys and they like to tease and make you feel like a very old woman!! Mine enjoy that for some strange reason!
At any rate, I have been…in chronological order….a student, a brand new public school teacher, a brand new mom, a homeschooling mom, a mom of public/private school teenagers, and a public school teacher again. So, as you can see I have been on both sides of the coin. In fact, I have been on both sides of several coins! Sometimes I was shiny, other times very dull and pretty scratched up!
I believe that the Father can use all the experiences in this life to help others; and most often times He helps us. As I held all these roles I have learned many things. The most recent role as a public school special education teacher taught me many lessons. God allowed all these experiences (plus many others) to make me the teacher and the person I knew He wanted me to be. Of course, I am still a work in progress, trust me!!
Once a parent, I became a better teacher. That was my personal experience. I no longer acted like I knew everything there was to know about teaching and parenting. I realized that when someone was sitting across the table from you discussing your child, you took it personally if something was said that was condescending toward your child in any way. I met parents in a different manner as a result of this experience.
I became a better teacher when I had children of my own because I finally understood unconditional love. I will never forget looking into my sons’ eyes….and understanding that I would lay down my life for each of them…anytime, anyway. I felt like I “mothered” my students, and taught them as if they were my very own flesh and blood.
I have watched with horror over the last few years as some of our schools have become targets of senseless shootings. But I have been filled with complete understanding as I have heard some of these teachers say “they are my kids when they are here at school and I will protect them the best I can.” Every teacher I have worked with has had that same attitude.
I became a better teacher because I homeschooled my own children. I was forced to put all I learned into practice about children having different learning styles, how God had indeed created them differently; that each child had a purpose. I honestly got to teach as I saw fit for each child. This helped me see all the special qualities of my students.
As a student, I can honestly say teachers were my heroes. My parents divorced when I was in junior high and three teachers took time to talk to me and help me through this difficult time. I always knew I would be a teacher. It indeed was my calling.
Yes, I recently quit teaching. The season changed. It is not the same world I grew up in…and teachers aren’t given the respect that they once were given. It is a very difficult job right now. My hats are off to all of them. They teach responsibility, respect, safety, morals; not to mention Math, Reading, Science, etc. Trust me when I say that there is not enough time in the day. Education seems to be blamed for everything right now. I believe there are many reasons, but it is not for this time. Teaching had literally affected my spiritual, emotional, mental and physical health. It was time to be healed.
So maybe being on “both sides of the coin” can make us more compassionate towards others. Maybe we can treat one another with more respect. Maybe we can realize that we don’t understand everyone else’s circumstances. Maybe we can ask each other questions without being condescending towards one another. Maybe we can use our experiences to love on people as the Father would have us love on others. Maybe we can encourage one another…whether student, parent, teacher or homeschooling mom!!
Coins can have a shiny appearance, or be very dull and full of scratches. Which are you? Oh, how I pray my side can be shiny to all I meet and come in contact with these days!
“A new command I give you. Love one another. As I have loved you, so must you love one another. By this you will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” John 13:34-35
Blessings dear ones…
IN CHRIST ALONE