Simple “Fix It” AKA “Momma Bear Syndrome”

Simple “Fix It”

Don’t do it.

I have regrets as a parent…

…and I would change some things that I did…

One regret: My reaction to….

the “Momma Bear Syndrome”.

Now don’t give me that look.

You’ve all been stricken with it at some point or another.

It’s that uncontrollable urge to yell at the mother of the two year old child who just bit your two year old in the church nursery. And yes, you talked to her..you neglected to yell..but you took care of it.

It’s that time you called Jenny’s mother and expressed your displeasure for not making her daughter invite all the girls from the first grade class to the skating party. How rude! But you took care of it and your baby girl got an invitation.

It’s that call your husband made to the coach to discuss why your son didn’t get to play anymore in the game after the second inning. Did he know what that did to your son? He does now…your hubby took care of it.

It’s the conversation you had with the parent of your older child’s friend explaining what a bad influence he had bestowed upon your daughter. You took care of it.

Trust me when I say you can’t always take care of it..nor should you. We should teach our children how to deal with life in a Godly manner. Now before you boo and hiss, I do think biting is awful and when danger is involved….that is a different story.

But our kids need to experience life while we are around to guide them through the hurt and pain. We won’t physically be with them each and every moment for the rest of their lives..and quite frankly we have the ability to hurt them ourselves more than help if we aren’t careful.

“All scripture is God breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training righteousness.” 2 Timothy 3:16

“My dear brothers and sisters take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” James 1:19

Keep the line of communication open with your child…but don’t fix everything. If you start your treatment for the “Momma Bear Syndrome” when they are babies, it will lessen the symptoms when they become adults.

Disclaimer: The Syndrome will affect you the rest of your life. Ask your own mom.

~Be blessed
In Christ Alone